One of the best parts about a wedding is being able to express yourself. As a couple you want your wedding to scream that this is your wedding and not anyone else’s. As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, you want to have some sign of that part of your life in your wedding. But the question becomes: how do you express that side of you without it becoming the focus of your wedding? The LGBTQ+ community is a vibrant, diverse group. It has become synonymous with self expression and freedom. Having same-sex representation is important. But you do not want it to overshadow your nuptials.
The Rainbow as Decor
The rainbow is the main iconography of the LGBTQ+ community. The rainbow flag specifically is the symbol of Pride. It has historically been used to represent all members of the LGBTQ+ community. Many LGBTQ+ weddings go all out with rainbow decorations. Of course there is nothing wrong with this. If that is what you and your partner want for decorations, then by all means go all rainbows! But do not feel like you have to go that route. You can still have your cake and eat it too by having more subtle nods to the LGBTQ+ community. The decorations should be reflective of you and your partners as people. Just because you are having an LGBTQ+ wedding does not mean that that has to be the only decor.
The Music
The stereotype that accompanies the LGBTQ+ community with music is the club genre. The assumption that every member of the LGBTQ+ community likes party anthems is flawed. DJs who may have less experience with a same-sex wedding may make this assumption. They may go and play a bunch of what they consider LGBTQ+ music. It is important to meet with your wedding DJ ahead of time to discuss your musical preferences. There are plenty of LGBTQ+ artists in different genres of music. You can have representation of your community without feeling like you have to put on a performance.
The Vibe
The main idea is that you want the vibe of your wedding to be reflective of you. You are the focus of your wedding. Do not feel pressured to make your wedding all about being in a same-sex partnership. There may be guests who are coming with certain expectations. They see the LGBTQ+ wedding as a novelty. But it is not. It is not simply a LGBTQ+ wedding. It is your wedding. Be true to yourself. Do not compromise based on other’s expectations. That being said, if your vibe is to go all out with Pride memorabilia, then go for it! Remember that at the end of the day it is your wedding and no one can tell you otherwise.